Stop Keeping Score
Perhaps you’ve been in my shoes when the bill is offered at a restaurant. Out of cheerful generosity, you consider paying for others. Yet you stop to think, “what have they bought for me, lately?” Or, after navigating carpooling schedules with another family for swimming lessons, you calculate who has done more, so that you can make sure you’re even (or ahead). Or in marriage, you count the number of laundry baskets you’ve folded and dishes you’ve washed in comparison to your spouse. As if it’s a game, you keep the score. I am guilty of having these thoughts. And...